Finding a Great Guy Ain't Easy!

[sarah miller]

I have been single for 3 years and never thought I would have such a difficult time finding a nice guy. I do admit that I expect it all: success, looks, intelligence, and integrity. Is that asking too much?? I have seen everything else until recently. I have met lots of pretty packages with very little substance deep down!!!
The first guy that I dated after my divorce rocked my world. I truly understand that expression after the very emotionally charged year I spent getting to know this individual. He preyed on me through the internet and I slowly discovered that he was self admitted sex addict and alcoholic.

One of my most recent was married and an alcoholic. Yes, I dated a married man but to my defense was totally unaware. He even fudged his divorce documents with the help of his wife to mislead me! How crazy is that?? The story gets much more interesting than that but I will save it for a future post.

The next guy that I dated was also successful and attractive and an alcoholic. In his dating profile he stated he was a "social drinker". He didn't exactly lie about that. He was social and most certainly was a drinker.

Ok, I will admit that I have finally met a great guy. Now, my track record is not exactly as we say squeaky clean so only time will tell. I do think that I am smarter, more mature and alert to all the deviant traits of dating today!

[sarah miller]

Hi Ladies
Please read my post on True Friendship. I would love to know if you have encountered that type of selfless friendship!!

[sarah miller]

Thanks again everyone!! He texted me and emailed me today and I am keeping it light and non pressuring. Men are a different species!! They turn it off as quickly as they turn it on. Then, they are gone without any explanation many times!!
All the support and comments from this site have been very helpful and uplifting!

[Penny]

Sarah. well thats in the past now.. His loss . I know men do like skanks ( good word lol) more than women that actually cares about them. strange .. I havent read that, but sounds like an interesting one.. Thank you Sarah.. TGIF :)

[Barbara Siragusa]

Strange breed man!! I love the book Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Every page was so true!!

[sarah miller]

Penny,

That is horrible! Men can turn off feeling so easily. I don't get it! What is it about them?? They start out seemingly wanting the same thing and the minute they see that you are really intersted in them they diappear!! The bitchier the more they like you! Have you ever read the book "Why Men Love Bitches?"
A must read!

[Barbara Siragusa]

I feel you...I am also sensitive and very trusting and can't understand why the rest of the world is so different it seems!! You ever been on Face Book? Check it out, it's fun and there are nice people there too....
Here is my link
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=821424506

[sarah miller]

Wow, you ladies have made me feel a bit better!! I take a bit of time to heal. My problem is that I am very sensitive and don't understand when people are dishonest and cold.
This really is a great site and I wish the owners well!

[Penny]

Good for you Sarah.. I had no warning signs the last time i had my heart broken. Found out later from a girlfriend,that he was planning to go to Cal for weeks before hand.To see an exgirlfriend. He bought me lunch and then told me there was no passion.. bastard. That was 2002 July 15th. I should try to forget that day. I only date now, Met a few descent guys ,but still dont trust like i use to.. Its very hard. I did alot of gardening and shopping.. Oh well New Year . New men to meet Sarah.. Hugs

[sarah miller]

thanks ladies for all your kind words. i know that it will take some time. It is hard when there were no real warning signs.. i always give my all to everything. I will focus on my website exclusively now at least without distractions.

[Red Girl]

Sarah, you seem to be really great, smart and strong woman! You worth of a great man. So if he cannot get that, he is not for you! Be yourself, stay confident about yourself, be happy and cheerful - you don't need him for feeling that. If he is still for you, he will come back, but just stop thinking that you need him - you can be happy and with him and without! Good luck my Dear, I believe that you'll be OK!